Every year we keep getting back to this issue of condoms versus the morality of a nation. It seems to me that, whereas we seem to agree how far we should go in marketing condoms, we keep finding ourselves being pulled backwards.
Recently, an advert has begun to appear on ZNBC television (Zambia) in which a young lady is telling her peers how to convince a boyfriend that they need to use a condom in order to have sex with a peace of mind. To be fair, she does not state that it is with a boyfriend.
She talks about “carrying condoms with you”. If you are married, you do not carry condoms with you. You leave them behind at home because that is where you have sex. Carrying condoms with you suggests that you are having sex away from home. In fact, many men and women have almost lost their marriages when their spouses have found condoms in their wallets, pockets, or handbags. As much as they might try to explain that they were meant for domestic use, it is hard for the partner to believe it.
We have been down this road before. If our public media, paid for by our tax, begins to convey the message to our young people that it is normal to have sex outside marriage as long as you do not contract sexually transmitted diseases, we will destroy our nation.
Sadly, this is the message conveyed by the condom adverts that we have rejected before, and which donors and partners keep pushing back down our throats because in their own countries morality has been thrown out of their windows—with damning results.
We all know that sex outside marriage is wrong. No amount of re-education can change that fact. Our consciences tell us that. It is only when passion overrides our better judgment that we not only engage in sex outside marriage but also try to justify it. No parent in his right mind will allow a boyfriend of his or her daughter to come and spend a night with his girlfriend in the home. It is unthinkable! Then why should we allow an advert in the public media that seems to suggest it is okay as long as a condom is used?
Morals are non-negotiable to any society, if it is going to last. Once sex becomes free for all (as long as they agree), we will soon be justifying homosexuality. How can it be stopped, since it will also be argued that it is between two consenting adults? Then, how will we condemn sex between an adult and an animal? The argument will be that the adult was doing to an animal something better that we do when we kill it in order for us to enjoy it as a meal on the table. How can you stop that without talking about morals?
In countries where the door has been opened by shooting down the fact that God, our Creator, has prescribed that sex should only be engaged in within the bonds of marriage, zoophiliacs (those who engage in sex with animals) are now fighting for their rights as well!
Those who advocate for the indiscriminate distribution of condoms often argue that we cannot stop unmarried people from having sex and so let us teach them how to have safe sex. If we do not do that we will lose our young people to AIDS, they say.
Our response to this has always been that our message should not be blackmailed by juvenile misbehaviour. If young people are drinking alcohol and thus causing accidents, we do not start adverts on how they can drink alcohol without causing accidents. Instead, what we have done is to tighten the laws on young people drinking alcohol and increased surveillance at drinking places. In fact, when it became clear that tujilijili were causing a lot of juvenile delinquency, our lawmakers simply banned their manufacture.
Why should sex be treated any differently? Those condom adverts must be stopped. Our nation is what it is today because we still have moral values. Go to the countries of most of our donors and see what has happened to family life there. It is a sad story!
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Reprinted: Your Family Matters from the Diary of Pastor Chanda, Wednesday, 28 November 12: Antioch Youth Conference Facebook Page